from st.augustine

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”

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“i don’t understand why destiny allowed some people to meet…yet there is way for them to be together”

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“one form of loving is when you just want the best for that person whether it includes you or not”

bible verse

1 Corinthians 13:1-13 - Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always PROTECTS, always TRUSTS, always HOPES, always PERSEVERES. Love NEVER fails.

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Top 10 Traits Of A Real Man by: Mr. Mafioso

a real man reads

If you don’t agree, go read the column of some guy from Arkansas who thinks owning a pickup truck is what defines a man. You’ll see how far you get with his advice.

Trait #1: A real man is strong

A real man doesn’t cry, doesn’t moan, doesn’t complain, doesn’t get sick, and doesn’t need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a b*tch, a real man will slap it and move on.

A real man is macho; a real man is tough; a real man doesn’t show emotions. A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn’t have time to be weak. If spiders scare you, you’ll never be a real man.

Trait #2: A real man is focused

A real man knows the difference between what’s important and what isn’t. A real man doesn’t waste time on stupidities that don’t bring him any profit. Sure, there are things you can do as a hobby — I like to shoot ducks — but it must have a purpose. The purpose of my hobby is to improve my aim, and I don’t have to tell you whether or not that’s a useful thing in my line of work.

A real man focuses on power, money and family. He doesn’t focus on sex. Sex comes as a result of having power, money and a wife (and if she doesn’t satisfy you, there are plenty of other women who will, especially when you are powerful and rich).

Trait #3: A real man knows the importance of family

A real man will keep his family strong and pass on his ancestors’ history and traditions. A real man knows that his children are God’s gift and should be treated as such, even if he disciplines them from time to time.

Know which traits make a real man…

Trait #4: A real man doesn’t gossip

A real man keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to and doesn’t engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn’t discuss things he doesn’t know about or people he has never met.

Trait #5: A real man’s word is his bond

When a real man makes a promise, he keeps it. If he can’t keep a promise, he doesn’t give his word. A real man would rather die than break his word. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and that they must be taken at face value. That is why he rations them (see above).

Trait #6: A real man strives to be a role model

A real man respects himself and others at all times, unless, of course, he has been disrespected. A real man sets an example for his disciples, and especially for his children. I never bring my work home, so my children only know me as their father and not as a waste management executive. You should do the same; a real man sets the tone for his children and keeps them from discovering that he has weaknesses.

Trait #7: A real man makes his own fortune

A real man doesn’t settle for handouts or charity when it comes to his personal fortune. A real man isn’t satisfied with papa’s money. He spits on Lady Luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherits goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.

Trait #8: A real man doesn’t look like a woman

A real man doesn’t have piercings and long hair, and he doesn’t shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman.

A real man has at least three suits (with a mandatory pinstriped one) that cost more than a roomful of escorts. A real man wears a suit at least three times a week. Any man who doesn’t know how to tie a tie should hand in his testicoli immediately.

Trait #9: A real man keeps his house in order

Have you ever been inside the boss’ house? There ain’t no pizza boxes sitting around, there ain’t no undershirts on the floor, and there sure as hell ain’t no unpaid bills being used as beer coasters. No ruler can rule over a territory if he isn’t already the master

See what you’ve done? I’m turning into freaking Moses over here… of his own home.

Trait #10: A real man can defend himself

You know what’s missing in the world today? Leaders who have had to fight their way to the top. No joking, look at the head of any business that’s circling the toilet bowl, and I’ll show you a boss whose parents’ power and money kept him from ever learning things the hard way.

Every successful capo has been on the wrong end of a beatdown — be it with words or be it with a set of A. Testonis. But those future capos got up again and again, until they knew how to stand their ground… and that, my students, is when you can start to climb the ladder.

lesson over

So what have you learned here today, class? You learned that you have a lot of homework to do before you can call yourself a real man. A real man is the essence of manhood because, by definition, he has achieved the pinnacle of his role.

Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.

Reflections on life

Reflections on life

Our life cannot always be full of happiness,

But it can always be full of love.

He who is blind to the view of our souls,

Will not enjoy and see life at it is.

The more you plan, the less likely you will experience chances,

Therefore live life to the fullest.

A true friend is one who holds your hand and thus touches your heart.

When we get married, we won’t know what lies ahead

Until we hit the waves of life at sea.

Life is reality without an eraser!

Nothing in the future, will correct those moments that you have missed in the past.

Don’t waste time with someone who won’t support you in time of need.

Always look back at the bright side of life. If there is no bright side,

Wait until the future turns to light.

Don’t cry over what has happened in the past,

But be happy that you could enjoy the moment.

Always remember the words from a true friend:

“I’ll be there for you”

Work, as if you don’t need money.

Love, as if nobody has hurt you.

Dance, as if nobody is watching you.

Sing, as if nobody was listening.

Live, as if this was paradise on earth.

Don’t despair, the nicest things will happen to you when you least expect them..

Feel free to share time with friends even those that you don’t talk to very often….

And remember:

“Everything that happens, happens for a reason!”

change

Change….a big change has come my way another door opens….another relationship, another girl to love, after quite sometime it’s weird to feel this way again….it’s kind of different with her, feels like I’m in high school or something….feeling things that I felt a long time before……she made my heart smile, put color in my life that made me forget the sadness that I’ve felt…. I love her I guess I really do….even though there is something else about her something else on our story I still love her….

chemicals that make you fall in love!!

I read about this in column of a men’s magazine and now I want to share it with you. Are you familiar with the signs of falling in love? Flushed cheeks, sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach, and your heartbeat racing at 60 BPM. But did you know that inside our bodies there are indeed chemical signs that we’ve been struck by Cupid’s arrow? Research says that falling in love has three stages, each involving a different set of chemicals.

Stage 1

ATTRACTION

When you fall in love you can’t think of anything else besides your object of affection. You even lose appetite and sleep less, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming and talking about her over and over again. In this stage, a group of neurotransmitters, called monoamines, play an important role:

·               Dopamine. This is the pleasure chemical in the brain, it function as a neurotransmitter that activates receptors. Dopamine is a neurohormone released by the hypothalamus. It’s also activated by cocaine and nicotine.

·               Norepinephrine. It is a stress hormone also known as adrenaline, it starts with sweating and gets our heart beating fast.

·               Serotonin. This is one of loves most important chemicals and one that may actually send as insane. It is believe that it play an important role in the regulation of the body temperature, mood, sleep, vomiting, sexuality, and appetite. Low level of this chemical will associate with several disorders, notably clinical depression, anxiety disorders. Now blame your serotonin for making you crazy in love with someone!

Stage 2

LUST

Lust this is driven by sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. Testosterone is secreted in the testes of males and the ovaries of the females, though small amounts are secreted in by the adrenaline glands. Although the majority of the time testosterone is associated with men it is not actually confined only to men. It is also been shown that it play a major role in the sex drive of women.

Stage 3

ATTACHMENT

People can’t stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they’d never get the work done! This is the next step after the attraction stage, if the relationship is going to last. Attachment is the longer-lasting assurance and is the bond that keeps couples together. There are two hormones release by the nervous system that play an important role in this stage.

·               Oxytocin. It is a mammalian hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. This is released by the hypothalamus gland during childbirth and also helps the breast express milk. This gives a strong bond between mother and child. It is also released by both sexes during orgasm and it is thought that it promotes bonding when adults are intimate. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.

·               Vasopressin. Also known as argipressin or antidiuretic hormone (ADH), it is a human hormone that is mainly released when the body is low on water. It is another important chemical in a long-term commitment stage. It’s an important controller of the kidney but its role in a long-term relationships has been noted in experiments as somehow linked with a couple’s bond towards monogamy.

life

Silence doesn’t always means yes,

it may also mean no but its better left unsaid.

Anger doesn’t always mean hatred,

it could just be a means of coping up.

Laughter doesn’t always mean happiness,

sometimes it is just a mask.

Tears doesn’t always mean sorrow,

it may also be an outlet of joy.

Staying away doesn’t always mean the best begining.

And life though it’s so complex is always beautiful….

If you don’t want to be ill…ACCEPT!

If you don’t want to be ill…ACCEPT!

The refusal of acceptance and the absence of self esteem, make as alienate ourselves. Being one to ourselves is the core for a healthy life. They who do not accept this, becomes envious, jealous, imitators, ultra-competitive, destructive. Be accepted, accept that you are accepted, accept the criticisms. It is wisdom, good sense in therapy.

Para sayo

Ikaw na aking mahal,

Ikaw na inibig ko ng pagkatagal tagal,

Ikaw na hiniling ko sa may kapal,

Ikaw na aking hinahanap hanap,

Aking prinsesang nagparamdam ng tunay na kahulugan ng buhay

Ikaw na ginawa ang lahat,

Ikaw na aking nasaktan at napaluha

Kung maari ko lang sana mabago ang mga nangyari,

Maipapakita ko sana at maipaparamdam

Na tunay ang aking pagmamahal

Na ako’y nagkamali at nagsisisi

Sa aking mga na gawa,

Sana hindi kita na saktan,

Sana hindi ganito.

Hiling ko sana ay ika’y aking mahawakan,

Mayakap, mahagkan

At masabing mahal na mahal kita

Aking prinsesa sana’y ako’y

Mahintay ng maipadama sa’yo ang aking pagmamahal

At maipakita ang aking pagbabago

Sana sa araw na yun

Ako’y iyong iniibig parin

Aking prinsesa mahal na mahal kita.

Hanggang sa muling pagkikita.

tropa

para sa inyo aking mga kaibigan

kayo na nakakasama ko sa mga inuman

kayo na hindi ng iwan kahit kailan..

kayo ang tropa ko….

ang mga tulad niyo ang nagpapasaya sa inuman ang samahan..

samahan na kahit kelan ay hindi mapapantayan….

ako, tayo magkakaibigan hanggang sa huli…

hanggang sa pagtanda….

mga tol shot pa….

isa pang tagay para sa ating samahan….

inum

shot nanman…ako, sila, ikaw, tayo

inum dito, inum dyan

birthday ni ganito, birthday ni ganyan….

anu ba talaga ang nakukuha sa inuman?

uso ba ito na dapat sabayan….

anu ba mapupulot niyo dito?

anu pa nga ba syempre ang sarap ng mga nakakasama mo…

at kung minsan ang mas nagpapasarap pa eh ang mismong

na kakasama mo…hehe

pursuit of happiness

finding your true happiness is hard espeacially

when you don’t know where and how to start…

many people have been through this kind of situation

and this what i can tell you…

a speacial someone ones told me that

“i have to do something to get what makes me happy.

that i have to sit, relax and think what really really really makes me happy… and contented..

then do something to get it. But remember, things don’t happen in a day.

Then i’ll get to plan my journey how to get to what makes me happy.

Then i’ll know where my life is heading to”

well she’s right having a positive input in life

will make things work just fine…

giving and doing the best thing just to have that happiness you wanted

what ever that is, what ever that may be…

you have to work hard for it…

you make things work…

that’s one of life’s challenges

same love

Did you ever felt playing basketball and loving someone is the same?

I think yes it’s the same….

When you play basketball you give everything you got…..

Just to win the game….. right?!

You learn hard work, perseverance, responsibility…

Isn’t it the same thing when you love someone?

You give your best shot …

Do what ever it takes…

Give everything you’ve got…

Take chances…

Make things happen…

Just to make her happy…

And in the end it’s still up to you…

On how you’ve play the game…

If you played well or not…

Win or loose…

Still you’ve learned…

And ready for the next challenge…

Ready for the next game…

The game of love…

real men

“a man can love a million girl but real man can love a girl in a million ways“